EFML: On a myth called unconditional love
During one of our recent conversations, my husband told me that he loved me unconditionally. My immediate and rather harsh retort was " Bullshit! That is not true at all. Besides, the idea of unconditional love is stupid ". The poor guy was shocked, and said to me " Wait, what!? I thought unconditional love was the golden standard of love that everyone aspired to achieve, and I was elated we're there. Now you're telling me you don't believe in it?" " Yeah, because it does not concur with reality. Would you really love me no matter what? Let's say I start behaving drastically differently from what you liked me for. Would you still love me? " My husband is a practical man, and he takes some time to ponder over this." Maybe I would. Or I don't know...probably not. " " Of course you wouldn't. There are implicit conditions in every relationship. Unconditional love is just a myth ." " What, then, sho